What Does Your Dating Profile Say About You?

As you enter the online dating world or if you have already embarked into the online dating you may want to take a few moments to understand the dos and don’ts of the content and how you display and portray yourself.

 

 

There are a few things I would like to address in this category.  

If you are going to be on a dating website, don’t be there to be a stalker.   You know who you are..the one who creates a profile with no photo and the content says, “Send me a message and ask” Really?  It is rather creepy to know you are out there and all you want to do is look at the profiles and nothing else.  I thought you were on a dating site.

 You have all seen the profiles where the individual says, “I want” and then proceeds to list the qualities of the person they are looking for.  You may as well be at McDonalds ordering a Big Mac.  Seriously, do you really want to shop for a date?  Utilize words like, “The perfect mate for me is...” and then list the qualities.  When you personalize rather than shop, it shows what your desire is.

Remember to keep your profiles short and to the point.  Be creative, this is where you reveal your personality.  If you proceed to list your whole life history and everything about you, why bother going on a date, you have already given your potential date all the information she or he needs and most likely will not even read the whole profile because…yawn!!!

Whatever you do, never never mention your ex-spouse!!!!!!  If this is the case, get off the dating sites and go see a therapist to release the hurt and anger.  Once you are emotionally ready, then proceed to the online dating world.

If you don’t have time to date, why do you even have a profile, you know what I mean.  An example of this is:  “I have 4 kids, work full time, go to school full time, have 4 dogs, 2 cats, young women’s or young men’s president and my free time is working out at the gym.”  This kind of profile tells the person reading it that you are not available, not that you have a significant other but that time wise you don’t have time to date.  Get off the site, clear up your schedule, and when you have opened up your schedule, you will have the time and are ready to set up a new profile.

Photos are very important.  First of all, don’t use a professional photo, these show nothing about you except you can get all dressed up, have a professional photo that is airbrushed and doesn’t show what you really look like.  Make sure the photo is current, not from ten years ago.  Be brave and post a current photo of you that is taken by a friend or family member, not a professional.  I realize I am going against the E-Harmony advice, but you really want to present truthfully who you are.  I find it rather amusing when a photo is posted where you can clearly tell the body type doesn’t match the description in the body of the profile.  Be honest because if you are serious about meeting someone, you want to be who you say you are.  And what is it with the profile photos with sunglasses?  What are you trying to hide? 

Don’t brag about your work or how much money you make.  Are you wanting attract the gold diggers?  If that is your goal then go ahead, brag all you want.

 

According to E-Harmony advice there are five things of what not to say. 

1.       Never misspell a word or use incorrect punctuation.

2.       Don’t list every little detail about you, keep it simple and to the point.

3.       Never say what you hate, stay positive.

4.       Don’t say too much about work and family.

5.       Never say something so vague it might as well be nothing

 

Now that you have been schooled in the online dating profile, hopefully you will take the suggestions and create the ultimate profile which will hopefully have success in online dating.  Good luck and have fun!